There are several marriage ceremonies, from engagement to wedding. A matchmaker comes to the home of the potential bride, and if the family agrees to the match, they serve sweet tea, and the bride puts on her wedding ring. It is obligatory for a couple to visit the mosque before and after the wedding.
Marriage is considered both a social and a religious obligation for Azeris. The choice of a future husband or wife has rigid regulations. Traditionally a future husband should be provided with home and work (by the wife's relatives); a wife should be a virgin and educated. These regulations are distinct from those of many other Muslim countries, as they are not so much a matter of social concern but rather associated with moral self-esteem for both Azerbaijan men and women. Notably, too, this criterion is not applied for mixed marriages.
The Azerbaijan constitution and daily life itself have been considerably influenced by Western social values. But unlike in large cities, where such events as the birth of a child and abortions are regulated, rural areas have their own ethnic and cultural practices, and there is no regulation of divorce, abortion, and birth.
Nevertheless, because women are more religiously active than men and are considered the carriers of Muslim values, they tend to adhere to Islamic norms of conduct. They seldom seek abortions, preferring to give birth to a child (thus having many children). While a divorced woman can marry again, she is expected not to have a lover between marriages, as this would be detrimental to her reputation and could make it impossible for her to marry again.
Toi (wedding celebrations) constitute the main event in family and social life in Azerbaijan. They also constitute the main musical event, having survived in an indigenous form through Soviet times as the occasion for performances of classical mugams and popular songs, and instrumental pieces and dances. A variety of classical and popular music and jazz - sometimes including well-known European tunes - are performed at these celebrations. However, there are obligatory components of traditional Azeri weddings: the instrumental tune ‘Vagzaly’ (in the past called ‘Gelin Havasy’ or ‘Gelin Attandy’), which accompanies the entrance of the bride, as well as the melody ‘Bey Tarifi,’ which welcomes the bridegroom and is performed at the end of the wedding. Wedding dances (yally), originating from the village tradition of western parts of the Republic in which ashig performances are common, also feature in the urban wedding repertoire. Weddings in Baki and other cities are held in restaurants or special celebration halls - shodlig evi. Usually hanende do not participate in urban weddings, but perform at village weddings in certain areas such as Abseron. Weddings in different regions do indeed differ significantly in their musical characteristics. However, they remain the main source of income for all musicians, who often refer to themselves as toihanshiki (wedding performers). Sometimes, you may see more modern dances performed in traditional wedding ceremonies:
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